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Stepping Outside External Pressures to Ensure Resilience

Stepping Outside External Pressures to Ensure Resilience

There are many articles on the internet that talk about how self-care helps build resilience. Resilient people meet the world on their own terms, not aligning too much on external views. So being resilient depends on your ability to look after your own needs regardless of the external pressures around you.

What are some of the external pressures we need to resist?

The Busy Syndrome: It seems in our culture that being busy and doing a lot is a badge of honor. Taking time to sit quietly, walk aimlessly or doing nothing can do you a world of good, bringing stress levels down and resilience up. Taking a cue from nature, like the changing seasons and we need to periodically rest and rejuvenate to be effective.

Take a look at your to-do lists. Try eliminating unnecessary tasks. You could put pleasant activities on it like taking a stroll in the park, meditating or attending a tai chi or yoga class.

The Never Enough Syndrome: No matter what you do it isn’t enough. This attitude keeps you running on a wheel like a hamster. You can counter this by saying to yourself after accomplishing some goals, “This is enough and I am satisfied with my accomplishments today.”

Accepting that you have finite energy and resources helps you to be realistic about what can be accomplished.

The Expert, Other Person Knows What I Should Do Syndrome: Often we think that others know more about what it is we need more than we do ourselves. Your body will tell you what it needs if you tap into it. I keep seeing references to statements that our bodies don’t lie.

Try sitting silently and tap into your body to see how it feels. What thoughts and feelings come to mind? What is your body trying to tell you? What does your body need? Then do what it needs!

The Everything is Fine Syndrome: Often we get out of touch with our body and think all is fine when we are actually running on reserves and taking our body for granted.

A way to see how you really are is to scan your body for tension and take the time to relax this tension throughout the day. I’m reading a book called Deep Listening by Jillian Pransky. The author indicates we should scan our bodies 3 times a day. She even sets her alarm to ensure she taps into her body on particularly stressful days.

Being resilient means stepping outside external pressures looking after your needs so that you can be effective over time.

"We make space inside ourselves, so that being can speak."  Martin Heidegger

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Embracing a New Season

Embracing a New Season

The fall (winter) has come in like a lion where I live. It is usually quite nice here until the end of October, and then the snow stays. However, it has been a very different fall this year. It has snowed a lot. This is very early in the season and much of the snow continues to stick around.

I was wondering how to resiliently deal with this abrupt change, rather than getting grumpy about it.

Here are some ways to embrace an early winter:

  1. Create time and space for self-reflection. Making time for quiet in your work and life can help you understand and get on top of your needs, desires, and goals.
  2. Go for a walk in the snow. The snow tends to make your walking quieter allowing for time to reflect on your thoughts and feelings.
  3. Play in the snow. Exercise your muscles by getting the snow off your car in a playful way, or build a snowman or make a snow angel. There must be many fun things to do with all this white stuff, limited only by our imaginations.
  4. Buy yourself a gorgeous toque. I keep seeing these lovely ones with lots of Nordic patterning or ones with a beautifully stylish and furry pompom on top.
  5. Journal or talk with a good friend while enjoying a warm drink (hot chocolate, tea, latte, coffee, pumpkin or turmeric spiced, etc.). This helps you get in touch with how you are feeling so that you can deal with and manage those feelings.
  6. Get out your skates, snowshoes, or cross-country skis. As you know being active has many benefits.
  7. Layer your clothing so that you will stay warm. You can always take one layer off if you are too warm.
  8. Get those wonderful winter boots out and ready or buy a new pair if yours are worn out.
  9. Create a cozy corner in your house. This may mean a place to meditate, read or do a hobby. Make it cozy by including blankets, pillows or a heating pad.
  10. Warm yourself up whenever you need to. I notice in the Nordic countries people either sauna or sit in hot water to keep warm all year around. It can be as simple as a hot bath with Epson salts, soaking in a hot tub, or enjoying a wood or infrared sauna, or steam. The infrared option helps remove toxins as well.

Hoping that these ideas help you embrace and enjoy this fall/winter and that you are able to appreciate the season all the more by welcoming some of the opportunities it brings for warmth, creativity and reflection.

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What This Blog is About

What This Blog is About

Welcome to The Resilience Blog.

The topics in this blog help you be more resilient in your career and as a leader. I write about ways to gain momentum and positively move through blocks that get in the way of your goals. I post articles on the blog about once a week. 

When I did my research study for my Ph.D., I got to conduct interviews with a number of successful and admired leaders. What fascinated me about them was how resilient they were. They had grown into leaders who could make things happen by demonstrating their resilience, confidence, and adaptive behaviours. I will teach you how to use and apply these resilient behaviours in your leadership and career leading to new levels of success. 

I am completing a book on Career Grit, which will include content and themes that will appear in the blog. If you have a story about overcoming challenges and becoming increasingly resilient in the process, I would love hearing about it. 

I am passionate about these career related topics:

  • methods to positively connect with others,
  • ways to lean into feedback,
  • reframing negative experiences,
  • making progress on your goals,
  • methods to enhance your positive impact, and
  • meeting challenges.

In the leadership area I enjoy focusing on: 

  • creating a safe environment, 
  • being more positive in your self-management and with your team,
  • raising your self-awareness,
  • bringing safety along with you wherever you go,
  • being able to have tough conversations when needed,
  • building trust, and 
  • ensuring your team performs. 

I hope you sign up for the blog soon and that you and your team apply these resilient behaviours thereby increasing your success.

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